Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Would he be even more handsome called Ryan?

George Clooney regularly tops "gorgeous man" polls, yet his is the first name least associated with attractiveness in a new study. Might this have slowed his climb to movie stardom? Can a name really determine your fate?

If you're called Brian and didn't get that promotion, then blame it on your parents and their choice of name. Ditto for those called Helen, and for the Georges out there who are unlucky in love.

We have strong perceptions about first names and associate them with success, luck and attractiveness, according to new research. And our perceptions can have very real consequences in everyday life.

POORLY PERCEIVED NAMES
Least successful: Lisa and Brian
Least lucky: Helen and John
Least attractive: Ann and George
Source: The name experiment
People walk around with stereotypes in their heads that can influence all sorts of decisions, yet don't even realise it, says psychologist Richard Wiseman, who conducted the research.

He asked more than 6,000 people about their perceptions of the most popular first names in the UK over the past decade, along with those in recent years. Some strong trends emerged.

Elizabeth and James are considered the most successful sounding first names, Lucy and Jack the luckiest and Sophie and Ryan the most attractive. But can a name determine our fate?

Class issue

A name certainly plays more of a part than we think, says Dr Wiseman. While many factors influence how we view a name - from liking a successful actor to disliking your boss - these perception can have a very real impact.

"Past research has shown that such perceptions can become self-fulfilling prophesies, with teachers giving higher marks to children with attractive names and employers being more likely to promote those who sound successful," he says.

But isn't it just the case that better off parents are more likely to call their children Elizabeth or James and it's a privileged upbringing that spells success rather than their name?

Elizabeth Hurley
Her name means business
It's not that simple, argue some. A name often represents parents' aspirations, as much as their social status. This can have a strong influence on a child whatever background they come from.

"The real consequence is not in the actual name itself, but in the intentions behind it," says Dr Martin Skinner, a social psychologist at Warwick University.

"Names usually reflect parental aspirations, so someone who wants their child to be taken seriously will give them a name that has weight and is not frivolous - whatever class they are."

The good news for anyone called Lisa, Brian, George, Helen, Ann or John - the lowest ranked names in the study - is that a name, and the perceptions people have about it, don't make that much difference in life, according to some.

"For better or for worse, you make the most of what you've been given," says Dr Skinner. "Your own efforts can overwhelm the impact of a name, in the end it's just a small advantage or a small handicap."

So what do people with names that are perceived to be successful, lucky or attractive think about them?

LUCY THOMAS
(Seen as lucky)

Lucy Thomas
I do think I've had good luck in my life but that comes down to having a good family, rather than my name.

I've never gone without. I've had a good childhood, travelled a lot and have a good job as a pharmacist, but I put most of that down to the love and support of my family.

People do seem to like my name and I've been told it's nice on lots of occasions, but I don't think it influences the way they treat me. I'm just who I am, take it or leave it.

I don't know why my parents chose it, but I know it's of Latin origin and its meaning is "light". I really like that and really like my name, I wouldn't change it.

I have noticed that most girls I know called Lucy feel the same, they are very happy with it.

JAMES CONINGSBY
(Seen as successful)

James Coningsby
I always knew I didn't have the type of name that would get me slapped in the playground. I think that's why my parents chose it, they didn't want my name to be any sort of burden.

I'm a partner in a law firm and don't think my name has done me any harm in my chosen profession. Saying that, I don't think it would have made much difference what I was called, I would still be doing the same thing.

It is very neutral and I think that is what makes it work as a name. It doesn't have any connotations like other names do, like Henrietta or Kylie. Nothing can really be assumed about a James.

I've never had any negative comments about my name. If people say anything they say they like it. I've never thought of changing it, I'm happy being James.

CHRIS WICKHAM
(Seen as attractive and lucky)

Chris Wickham
I didn't like my name when I was young but I was called Christopher all the time then - now it's always Chris.

I like it because it's a name you can go through life with. A lot of names date and really identify someone as being from a certain generation. My name isn't like that.

A Chris can be any age, old or young. It's also as male as it is female. You can't really pigeonhole someone with this name.

I'm surprised, but pleased, that people perceive it as attractive and lucky. No-one has ever told me they like my name, but then again no-one has ever told me they don't.

My name simply isn't brought up by people in discussions. I think it's because Chris is very neutral, it doesn't have any obvious connotations.

I don't think it's helped me in life particularly, but I don't suppose I'd really know unless I changed it and I wouldn't do that. I'm happy with it.

ELIZABETH BARRETT
(Successful)

Elizabeth Barrett
I love Elizabeth. It's the name of one of the greatest historical and feminist (for her time) queens in Britain, as well as the current one, so it feels quite regal.

I also like it as you can shorten it to different nicknames. My preferred one is Lizzie, which to me seems sparky and young. But I like using Elizabeth as well as it rolls off the tongue.

I think it's viewed as strong and I think people expect women with the name to be intelligent. I think films have helped with this. When you see Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice on screen reading books and managing to win the heart of a Darcy, I think people see it as aspirational.

Some say I have a very British sounding name, by which I think they mean old fashioned. Really, people don't tend to remark on it. I'm not aware that it has helped me in certain situations but I do think people are judged on their names.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Is this racism?

While in the Eurostar lounge, some woman, looking very lost, turns to me and says 'can you please get me some white wine?'. I definitely give her a 'are you seriously talking to me?' Look. I think she gets the picture pretty quickly and profusely apologizes blaming her misspeak on the fact that I have a blue shirt on (of course it has nothing to do with the fact that I'm a black man in a predominately white environment of course)

Its a small lounge so I see her couple times while waiting for my train. She repeatedly says hello and sorry and by the 2nd time I'm very very annoyed.

Now the question is: should I think this woman is a racist or is it just a case of mistaken identity?


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Thursday, March 06, 2008

Interesting Start to a day...

Very strange day…

After a busy day that included switching over to a new computer at work, having a 5 a side game bang in the middle of the most important match of Arsenal’s season, winning against AC Milan in the San Siro - a match few thought they could win (apart from me of course), and getting home at about 10:30, it slipped my mind that I needed to book a cab to the airport for my flight to Amsterdam in the morning. So at about 11pm I call one cab company who seemed to have no idea where I lived but he booked the taxi anyway. Ive been done in before where I booked a cab the night before a trip only to find out the next morning that they for some odd reason didn’t have the booking in their systems. Needless to say, missing my flight when I was the only company representative at the client meeting would not be a good thing. So, not feeling too confident in this cab actually showing up in the morning at all, never mind on time, I call another company and book another taxi at the same time. Worse case, two cabs show up and I have to tell one to leave. Easy.

So I wake up the next morning and sure enough I can see two cabs waiting outside. I doubt it took them too long to realize what had happened. I soon receive a phone call – its 5:30 in the morning so who else would it be. Yup. Cab company yelling at me about booking two cars. I basically say chill the F out and ill be right down. My plan was to choose the one closest to me, get in and leave. Didn’t work. I get outside, get in the car and the other cabbie comes running over FUMING! He goes on a 20 minute rant about how I shouldn’t make fun of people like that cuz someday someone will make fun of me. WHAT?!?! What is this guy talking about? I have a flight to catch and he is blabbering about making fun of people at 5:30 in the morning? I mean my closest friends make fun of me everyday. Why would I give a $hit if randoms did it?

Anyway after trying to get me to pay a 12 pound cancellation fee (unsuccessfully) me and the other cabby, completely silent throughout all this, were on our way to Heathrow, making it to the terminal early enough for me to get breakfast in the BA lounge and read about my Fab Fab and the Gunners triumph :-)